The KonMari method theoretically
The idea is – by purging all that doesn’t spark joy, you’ll
As an early adopter of the ‘Kon-
I decided to keep only the clothing that sparked joy. As Kondo suggests, I folded the clothing like sushi rolls so each would stand on its own. I hung my clothing like she suggests with dark colors on the left, and light colors to the right so it looks like it’s rising: from heavier left to a lighter right.
Armed with a ‘guidebook on tidying up,’ I felt empowered to finally tackle the stack of random printed material and notes piled on the desk, and anything else that could use a ‘cull’ (ahem, an edit).
What gave me pause
While it felt good to declutter, the framework for deciding what to keep and what to discard later gave me pause.
With some time and distance to my kondo-
When we discard something because it doesn’t spark joy, we are in fact judging the item. It’s like, ‘Ok, this [enter object name] doesn’t give me [enter feel good factor] anymore, let’s toss it.’ or “Uh, this reminds me of [whomever that gets on my nerves], I’m not going to keep it”
I suppose it’s like rather than confront what was making me uncomfortable, I had simply wanted to just get rid of it.
A different deciding factor: emotional charge
When we discard something based on whether it ‘sparks joy,’ we judge them for not giving us joy. Whereas, another way would be to look at whether we still have an emotional charge to the thing/person/incident.
Those things with an “unpleasant” memory or emotional charge was actually an opportunity for me to look at why it seemed unpleasant. When there was no longer an emotional charge, that means I have resolved that issue and the item has served its purpose.
Decluttering can be a great exercise. Decluttering neutrally presents an opportunity to resolve what we may not have wanted to look at. When we apply this to how we declutter things, relationships, etc, perhaps it’s simpler and more complete.
The goal is similar: for a life that Sparks Joy. Yet in abundance and without limitations on how many books one should own!*
*As Marie Kondo suggests keeping only 30 books, people began to weigh-in on
Background: Marie Kondo is a Japanese decluttering and organising expert. When her book The Life-changing Magic of Tidying Up came out, it quickly caught on in the English-speaking world. On the Netflix shows,